Saturday, August 8, 2009
We're Adopting a GIRL!
Well, we are only 1 week into this, and we have already made a change on our application. Under “gender preference”, we have changed our selection from “either” to “GIRL”!!!!
Adam and I have loved being parents of boys, and at first, we were leaning towards that again. However, the more we thought about it, we both had secret wishes to have a girl. On the selfish side, I see myself styling my little girl’s hair in all sorts of fun styles, painting fingernails, etc. On a more serious side, we believe that a girl will transition better into our family. We have always worried that if we ever adopted, would the adopted child feel even more “alone” because not only are they not biological children of ours, but they are trying to fit into a family with tight-knit, twin boys. We worry that if we adopt a boy, he may feel left out at times because he doesn’t have that best bud twin. When the boys go to church or the YMCA, they always play separately with other children, but we don’t want to take that chance of our adopted child feeling like an outsider. I think it will be much easier for a girl to transition into our family. In addition, this would explain why she would have her own room, no hand me down toys, etc.
Adam has talked to Wes and Cal a little bit about getting a brother or sister. He was simply explaining what that meant because they don’t even understand what it means to be twins. They think any two boys together are twins. Wes and Cal picked the brother/sister concept up quickly, and a few days later Cal asked me if he was going to get the baby now. I didn’t understand what he meant, so I asked him to repeat it. Same question. I asked, “Do you mean when are you going to get a baby brother or sister?” He said, “Yeah.” I explained it would be a long time, and I was really shocked that he was bringing this up. Wes joined in on the conversation and clarified that it was going to be a baby sister. Cal said he wanted a baby brother and a baby sister. I explained that we would just get one baby. The boys talked amongst themselves and announced that they were going to have a baby sister. That settled it. Application was changed.
The Ethiopia program director stated that we have to get our girl preference approved by our social worker. I don’t see why we wouldn’t be approved to request a girl, but it is ultimately up to them. Keep your fingers crossed!